So today is my anniversary with my sweetheart. Two years and some change of the deepest love and greatest adventures. So here's a little walk down memory lane with some things I've learned along the way.
Being in love with my best friend is the best thing in the world (besides my mom.) Truthfully, he cares about me more than I ever could have expected...again, with the I am incredibly lucky.
David's strengths are my weakness... and most of the time visa versa but tbh most of the time he is right, which is incredibly annoying but also an amazing part of our relationship. David has developed this skill of being able to see both side of an argument, even one he is in, and be the bigger person and think in the most rational way possible. Meanwhile, I am emotional and sensitive, which to be clear is also a wonderful strength in its own ways and I've only just started appreciating it and learning to love that about myself.
I am an incredibly selfish human being. This is stand alone. I didn't know how selfish I was until I got into a relationship and my little green monster reared it's ugly head.
This relationship is just as much mine as it is his. And what I mean by that is... I think as women we are told by society, movies, friends, bad dating experiences etc., that we are suppose to cater to the man. When dating a guy don't show him your crazy or he won't be interested. I'm not talking about Greichen Weiner's crazy, I'm talking about the insecurities and baggage we bring from past relationships and experiences. My relationship is just as much about me as it is him and really it's about working together. To best work together I have to communicate my wants and needs from the relationship and if a man doesn't want to be a part of that than he's not the man for me. Fortunately, I've found this wonderful person who gets me and wants to be apart of my life and I as much in his.
Communication is key. Yes, I know you've heard that one before, but truly, life is easier and better when we communicate. I've also learned communicating when I am less emotional and more rational is significantly beneficial.
He can't know my expectations if I don't communicate them. Oy, this is so real. Men and women are so different. David is a provider and I am nurturing. The way he shows his love is different than the way I show my love. If I do not share my exceptions he will not know and in turn is only disappointing for me and pressure on him. Seriously... still a lesson I am learning daily.
I am an extremely lucky woman. This is the biggest understatement ever. Seriously. David and I matched on Tinder. Yes, you heard that right, Tinder. We chatted for several months before meeting in person and when we finally did it was like the universe said "it's time." A little about David in our relationship: he is supportive, compassionate, caring, deeply loving, loyal, humble, hard working, accepting, and one of the best men I've ever met. So yeah, I am lucky.
Fights and Arguments are good and can deepen the relationship. YOU GUYS! THIS IS HUGE! I naturally shy away from confrontation. But, I've found a place of vulnerability and trust with David. When we argue about things it only grows my understanding and appreciation for the amazing man that he is. He does not harbor my grievances against me but accepts the imperfections and insecurities and grows with me.
I hope everyone finds a David. I truly do, and I am thankful to every other relationship or date that didn't work out because it put me here and I would not trade that for anything. And I hope those people find their version of David. For all you ladies, or guys, who are out there looking and waiting please do not settle for anything less than being fully loved every single day. And I don't just mean the romance and butterflies feelings. I mean the tough, heart level conversations that strengthen your love. I mean the one who makes you a better person and isn't afraid to tell you the truth in love. I mean the one who is satisfied in the quiet and brings you joy in the darkness. I mean the one who loves you and stands by you and supports you when finding direction is hard. I have found all of these things and more in David and I am thankful for another day to grow deeper in his precious love.
To my love and inspiration- Happy Anniversary. Here's to many, many more, my darling!